How to Handle Rejection at Work with Grace

You are not alone.

Didn't get the job offer you wanted?

Didn't get the promotion?

Didn't get the team you thought you earned?

Didn't land the key account or client(s) after months of work?

Didn't get the compensation package you feel you deserve?

I am a firm believer that EVERY experience teaches you something: something good, something bad, something you want, something you don't want; it's a learning process.

However, we are all human and hearing a 'no' or being rejected from a collaborative project at work, not being invited to the proverbial strategic table, not winning a project, not retaining a client not landing that next job, etc...we’ve all experienced rejection to some degree in our careers.

Does being rejected get easier? Maybe or maybe not.

I'd argue that it's about perspective, balance and your core values. It's an event. choose to not let it define you or your career.

Here are 4 ways to handle rejection when it comes your way:

1. Be confident in who you are. A job is not your only identity. It's something you do, but don't let your job title become the only 'you.'

2. Know your strengths. They are transferable and needed. Not sure what your strengths are- try this. Ask 3 people 3 words to describe you and 3 strengths.

   Another tool- take the Kolbe A index to learn how you instinctively problem-solve and achieve goals as well as to enable you to ask for what you need at work.

3. Consider alternatives. Ok- so you were not given the formal promotion or you were not offered the job. What other options are there? Can you volunteer to lead a different project or team or provide input without the 'title'? Can you approach like employers as a part-time contractor?

4. Treat others the way you wish to be treated and think about how you would handle the situation differently if the shoe were on the other foot.

Next- Ask yourself these 3 questions when you’re experiencing rejection in your career:

1. Could it mean that you are being redirected to something bigger? Something better? To use your talents in another way? To serve another group of people that need you more?

2. Are you too comfortable? Often times we don’t make a move in our career unless we are forced to or until we become super uncomfortable. When we’re comfortable, we tend to accept the status quo. Is it time to find a mentor? Is it time to start networking?

3. Money. What is the value you are placing on your compensation? Is it worth your health? Your family? Why? Why not? Only you can answer this question.

And the million dollar question I must ask my clients multiple times a week:

What is the consequence of the status quo- Of doing NOTHING after you've experienced rejection?

I have the true honor and pleasure of coaching individuals from entry level to C-level positions and business owners who make pivots and changes in their careers for their own reason and in their own time.

If you feel stuck in a rut, are employed, underemployed, took a career break or just want an objective career sounding board, we should chat. I have a few complimentary career strategy sessions each week. You can schedule yours here now.